We are so excited that you are joining our next Unlearning Circle! Together we will explore the white supremacy culture characteristic of Right to Comfort. Together we will deepen our understanding of how white supremacy’s right to comfort disrupts the experience of belonging, safety, and pleasure in kinky spaces. We will brainstorm how we can create healthier and more intimate play.

In our racialized culture (and none of our communities have escaped the contamination of white supremacy), the right to comfort is an unspoken, unacknowledged, and often unseen assumption that our words and actions must keep white people comfortable. That if we are uncomfortable, there must be something wrong. That if we are uncomfortable, something needs to be fixed. We all feel the pressure and engage in behaviors to keep those of us who are white comfortable.

Right to comfort shows up in our kink communities when we choose not to embarrass kinksters who have intentionally or unintentionally caused harm. When we demand politeness. In kink communities, Right to Comfort gets wrapped into our cultures of loyalty. It derails accountability.

Resources

• White Supremacy Culture Characteristics

People’s Institute for Survival and Beyond - Antiracist Principles

https://www.pisab.org/our-principles/